November 11 is a day to reflect on where we’ve been as a nation, and remember the men and women who serve and suffer in our names.
A lot of thoughts cross your mind on Veterans Day, especially if you live in one of the cities that has a national cemetery.
Like San Diego, where the tombstones stand precisely arrayed across Point Loma, overlooking the Pacific Ocean on one side and San Diego Bay on the other.
You think about your friends and family members who’ve been in “the service,” where they were, what they went through. Like my father, a Navy Seabee in the Pacific during World War 2. Like my Uncle Salty, a World War 1 doughboy on the Western Front in Europe.
If you yourself are a vet, perhaps you think of those who served with you, those who made it back with you, and especially those who did not.
If history is one of the reasons why you travel, you think about the Arlington National Cemetery, across the Potomac River from Washington DC, and its famed Tomb of the Unknowns.
You also might think, if you know of it, of another memorial a short drive away — the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier of the American Revolution, a small courtyard outside the Old Presbyterian Meeting House in Alexandria VA.
For me, though, this is a day to think about Michael Davis O’Donnell, a captain who commanded a US Army helicopter squadron in Vietnam. Young guy, very bright. Seemed almost destined to end up as a poet laureate at some prestigious college, maybe in his native state of Illinois.
Destiny had other plans.
On March 24, 1970, Capt. O’Donnell led two Huey helicopters out to pick up a Special Forces long-range recon team in Cambodia under heavy pursuit from an elite North Vietnamese force specially trained to stalk and kill those teams.
He insisted on flying in alone to get them. He had them all and was flying away when his helicopter was blown out of the sky by a rocket-propelled grenade. Searchers who returned to the area later reported finding no piece of the Huey larger than a basketball.
There are more than 50,000 American stories like this one from Vietnam. Their names cover the black memorial wall in Washington DC. So why does this one stand out for me?
On New Year’s Day 1970, Capt. O’Donnell had led a memorial service for members of his helicopter company lost in combat. He wrote a poem for the occasion.
He never gave it a title. I’m not even sure he thought of it as a poem. But there’s no question that it is poetry.
It says, in fewer words and far better than I could, why this day matters:
“If you are able,
save them a place
inside of you
and save one backward glance
when you are leaving
for the places they can
no longer go.
Be not ashamed to say
you loved them,
though you may
or may not have always.
Take what they have left
and what they have taught you
with their dying
and keep it with your own.
And in that time
when men decide and feel safe
to call the war insane,
take one moment to embrace
those gentle heroes
you left behind.”
This is a day to remember all our gentle heroes — even the ones we only see fleetingly, under the bridges and freeway on-ramps that too many of them call home.
As for Maj. O’Donnell, he’s buried at Arlington. He shares his tombstone with the names of the Special Forces soldiers he tried to save.
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